Ingredients

At least one good #intention
A huge amount of attention, ref #conscious//#subconscious, to

  • Behaviour, ref #VAK and #submodalities
  • #intentions
  • #frames and #presuppositions

A safe #frame for the feedback
At least one #presupposition, which #anchors to a growth mindset
Abundant amounts of #I//#you-sorting
Abundant amounts of #pacing – and some #leading

Directions

Start with at least one good #intention for your feedback and make sure that the receiver acknowledges that you want to contribute to development and growth.

In order to gather useful information for feedback, add a huge amount of attention to behaviour – what you actually see and hear (#VAK and #submodalities) – sorted from your interpretations, evaluations and thoughts), #intentions, #frames and #presuppositions.

Ensure a safe #frame for the feedback with careful attention to time and place – and check that the other party actually want feedback from you, ref #I//#you-sorting. If so:

  • #anchor a #presupposition of a growth mindset, e.g. «I appreciate all the effort you have put into this, and efforts give results»
  • Share what you have seen and heard, your observations
  • Share your thoughts concerning what you have observed, like «I enjoyed…», «I wonder whether…»
  • Explore the #intentions, what the other person wanted to achieve and check whether this matches the actual results
  • Assess the #frames, like which #frames were important to the other party and to you and how they supported the outcome
  • Examine the #presuppositions, like which assumptions and expectations the other party and you have and how these #presuppositions work for you
  • Summarise what you find to work well and is worth to repeat in the future as well as any other measures or options that will improve the results even further.

Add #I//you-sorting abundantly all the way and ensure that everyone gets to talk on their own behalf and make their own decisions.

Serve with lots of #pacing and #leading, in order maintain contact and trust and lead to growth and development.

Enjoy!

NB1: Avoid the following ingredients

  • Lack of #I//you-sorting,
  • Mis#pacing – the opposite of #pacing
  • Mis#leading – the opposite of #leading

The three above will undermine your good #intentions and create distrust.

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