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Meta categories for human behavior and experience

Framework for communication and change processes

What if there were defined #keys to decode anything people do or say? A system that made it easier to recognise, analyse and adjust behaviour and create the desired results? No, it’s not science fiction – it’s meta-categories, and you can learn them in 24 hours. Whether you are leading a change, building a team, making a strategy, programming artificial intelligence or want to get more out of your life: the #keys are one click away.

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Main categories

The most important #key?!

Are you wondering what is most important for successful communication and change processes? We vouch for what is summarised in the #key I//You. Watch the video and check if you agree.

A #key a day…: Tools to create what you want

When you communicate more consciously, it is easier to create the results you want. The #keys help you recognise patterns so you can understand what’s going on – and act adequately. They also raise awareness of new possibilities.

#pacing and #leading

How to create contact and trust before taking the lead

#pattern interruption

How to break old patterns, get rid of useless habits – and what you can do when everything seems stuck.


How to be clear and set clear boundaries. Tips for leading meetings, projects, children and family life.


How to become aware of and change mindset and thought patterns.


How to create motivation – for yourself and others.

#1.//2.//3. order

How to efficiently create changes.

All you need is…: 24 #keys for every occasion

Information sources for sorting

  • I//you

  • 1.//2.//3. order

  • associated//dissociated

  • V//A//K//language

  • past//present//future

  • external//internal

  • front//back

  • upper//lower

  • left//right

  • conscious//subconscious

Information types

  • frames

  • presuppositions

  • intentions

  • VAK and language

  • submodalities

  • anchor

Communication patterns

  • pacing & leading

  • pattern interruption

  • congruence-incongruence

  • anchoring

  • strategies

  • logical levels

  • signatures

  • language patterns

Life with meta categories

  • Easier to recognise patterns, extract essence, and distinguish significant from insignificant
  • Greater flexibility in using methods and models – learn new faster and combine the ones you know
  • Easier to communicate across disciplines
  • Specific tools for «soft-skills»
  • Higher awareness of resources and opportunities increases the likelihood of success
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Online courses: study where and when you choose

Check out XLO’s online course portal and find courses, which suit you.

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Tips and inspiration: Communication that creates change

Are you looking for specific tips, recipes for success and examples from everyday life? The blog archive abounds with recognisable dilemmas and solutions for your professional and private life.

Recipe: Change

Ingredients A good #intention Several useful #presuppositions Appropriate #frames Several alternatives for how to fulfil the #intention, ref #right//#left One [...]

Recipe: Motivated co-workers

Ingredients One or more good #intentions Abundant amounts of useful #presuppositions Adequate #frames Lots of #pacing and a sufficient amount [...]

Recipe: Basic ingredients

Did you notice that the #ingredients in recipes are used repeatedly? Make sure you have the basic communication skill #ingredients [...]

Recipe: Respectful feedback

Ingredients At least one good #intention A huge amount of attention, ref #conscious//#subconscious, to Behaviour, ref #VAK and #submodalities #intentions [...]

Recipe: How to handle Conflict

Ingredients Attention to #logical levels Flexible access to an #associated and #dissociated perspective #conscious #presuppositions Abundant amounts of #I//you-sorting At [...]

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“Thank you for making it so easy”

Our goal is to provide courses, workshops and advice that provide the most expertise, in the shortest possible time and with lots of fun.

“Fun with practical knowledge

“In Brainwells, we are always committed to acquiring new knowledge. Unfortunately, hectic days make for limited time. Therefore, the intro course with XLO was ideal for us. In retrospect, we see that what we learnt is useful on many levels, and we believe that anyone who works in teams or at the interpersonal level will have both great benefit and pleasure from taking this course.”Kristine Maudal, partner, Brainwells

XLO Change Academy tailor designed a training day for us where we were given access to seven specific communication tools. We used the tools in context with our own work experiences to train and reflect on “soft skills”. I have only received positive feedback from the participants, and I feel that we have increased our awareness of both internal and external communication.

Senior Principal Specialist, DNV GL - Oil & Gas Norway

You are constantly mentioned and talked about after your visit. We cannot thank you enough for the wonderful workshop and project you delivered. We have managed to implement the results in the management groups, staff meetings and even in the board!

Rune Zeylon, HjartdalBanken

Very interesting, diverse, thorough, structured, exciting, fun, easy to understand and educational. :-)

Student , online course
Very important material that many more should know about. Highly recommended!
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